Why marry..

I am extremely sorry for my personal opinion on marriage and my apologies to all those who find this offensive but I honestly feel that marriages are just not working in urban society and I sincerely feel that if two people are genuinely in love and compatible, a live in is a much better option. In a society with a live and let live attitude and zero tolerence, getting into the complication of marriage might be the biggest mistake. No marriage at all is better than a bad marriage. Relationships are not ending because anyone is at fault, they are ending because people do not want to live a life of the slightest bit of compromise and want to live a life where they can do what they want without being nagged or questioned. Very often one can see these days that not necessarily is a second or third marriage better than the previous one, it is possibly the lack of tolerance and availability of options that people are growing out of love and are finding it difficult to tolerate each other’s shortcomings once the initial attraction is over. Technology also plays its villainous role in providing these options.Also a very important aspect is that it is not easy, specially with our current tolerance level to live with anyone for that matter. Space has become one of the most sought after commodities for mental peace and happiness .We are intelligent enough in our generation to know that things need to be worked upon to make a marriage work but probably after a certain stage do not feel the need to work so hard and are willing to give it up for our independence which is something we have all got very used to. The advantage of a live -in, in comparison is that it just might make the exit less complicated and messy and in many cases of late, couples are back to being cordial friends. Also, one might make more of an effort if the relationship is not binding in any way. Marriage sometimes complicates matters with families involved, financial implications and high expectations all around. Another complication is bringing a child into this world if one doesn’t have a steady marriage. That is not only going to complicate matters but also scar a child in more ways than we can imagine.I am definitely not against the institution of marriage. I just feel there are a variety of reasons as to why it is not working anymore and so it is more like a prevention is better than cure kind of a scenario.

I would like to also add a new perspective to my above theory which deals with the changing definition of the emotion of love. Love itself is no more a 'do or die kind of love' or a 'gift of the magi’ or 'grow old together' kind of love where couples would give it all no matter what. Love has become an unfortunate cocktail of heart and emotions mixed with individuality and practicality. I do not feel that anyone is to blame for this as human evolution itself has been a deterrent to pure and innocent love. Marriage is giving a sense of permanence and commitment to love but unfortunately in an age where temporary has replaced permanence in every aspect of life and boredom is a natural phenomenon and materealism more often than not is the only tool for excitement in life, the sanctity and stability of something as sacred as a marriage becomes questionable.